Death Seems Inevitable; Stage Four Cancer Consequences: Surviving Spouse Counsel; Visit Spouse's grave often

Advice to a surviving spouse: visit the grave often.
These visits seem to help me contain my anticipation that Wife is coming home, or will be at the next stop, or in bed when I arrive.
The grave is REAL; That pile of dirt and flowers tell me that she AIN'T. COMING. BACK.  My crying fits and feeling sorry for myself (which still happen often) WON'T. BRING. HER. BACK.